I've been traveling and writing about those travels in this blog for about 13-1/2 years now. Some of the things that I've written about have taken place over minutes while others have taken several days stitched together by a common thread. In the case of one post, I actually wrote about something that didn't even actually happen, if that makes sense.
In the last few years (let's say dating back to late 2022), we've traveled to some destinations to experience a unique, place-specific celebration that has occurred over days or weeks (although we have never been there - wherever "there" is - for the entirety of the weeks-long celebration). In December of 2022, we spent a week touring through the various Christmas markets in and around Vienna, Austria. We followed that experience up about 15 months later by participating in Lunar New Year celebrations in Singapore. Then we made a sakura pilgrimage to Tokyo to see the annual cherry blossoms flower in that city in 2025.
This year, it was time to take in the Día de los Muertos, or the Day of the Dead, celebrations in Mexico. We picked Mexico City for our participation in that annual ritual. We figured if we are going to spend time in Mexico for this event, why not go big! Mexico City was awesome by the way.
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| Marigolds. All over the City for Día de los Muertos. |
The Nahua peoples in Central America (for simplicity's sake think Aztecs here, although that's really dumbing down the situation to a sort of unacceptable level) celebrated their dead each August (although they clearly wouldn't call the time of year by that Roman-named month) as part of their belief in a life cycle which included both life on this planet and an afterlife that included a final resting place called Mictlán. To honor their dead each year, the Nahua offered food and other supplies for the dead to reach Mictlán.
When the Spanish conquered present day Mexico (and many other places in the New World), they brought with them a celebration on November 1 and 2 which was a mixture of Roman Catholic and pagan rituals. These early November celebrations (All Saints' Day / All Souls' Day) included families leaving bread and wine along with flowers and candles on the graves of their ancestors
Today's celebration centers around a belief that at the stroke of midnight on the October 31 / November 1 transition, the gates of heaven open and allow deceased children to re-join their families for 24 hours. A day later, the same thing happens for adults who have passed on. The celebration permeates life in many ways during celebration. We wanted to take in as much as possible to understand this ritual and holiday a little deeper.
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| Pan de Muerto. Traditional seasonal bread pastry, typically orange flavored. Yum!!!! |
First, if all this sounds very much like the Pixar animated movie Coco, it should. That movie is about this celebration.
Second, I'm not sure why it's called DAY of the Dead. I mean it's clearly at least two days in length and you could even make a case for the start of the festivities happening late in the day on October 31 and the city gearing up for the two days honoring the deceased in the week or so before then. Maybe it's a translation thing. Or maybe it's just grown over time from All Souls Day originally into something bigger.
Third, we heard this celebration referred to as both Día de los Muertos and Día de Muertos while we were in Mexico. I'm going with the longer one.
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| Alebrijes. Not really part of Día de los Muertos ancient history, but they are today. |
But similar evolutions have happened with other holidays, right? For those of us living in a Christianity-focused society, I am sure you know that Santa Claus as a man in a red suit only dates to the 19th century and Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer was invented in 1939 by the Montgomery Ward department store. Or maybe you didn't know that. But I am sure most of us can remember a time when there was no Elf on the Shelf. Traditions are added to holidays in the most random ways.
For the first-time Día de los Muertos visitor to Mexico's capital city, there's a lot to take in and understand. Some of the images associated with the celebration date back centuries and some are pretty much brand new. I'll try to unpack what we saw over the six days we were in town. And I'll try to keep it brief. Try being the operative word.
What is there to take in for Día de los Muertos?
So first of all, you are going to see a ton of skulls. In stores, on signs, in parades or even as part of a giant public art project featuring identically-sized skulls (let's say four feet or maybe a bit more high) painted differently by various different artists and scattered around the entire city. Other than a mural or two on some of the tunnel walls near the airport, large painted skulls were the first thing that got us excited for Día de los Muertos. They were the first tangible things that screamed Day of the Dead on our trip to our hotel that first day. We had read ahead of time that sugar skulls were also a thing; we didn't see a single one.
We also managed to see a ton of orange flowers when we were being driven into town from the airport and elsewhere around town all week. They are marigolds and they have a very specific role in Día de los Muertos. These flowers with their bright colors and strong scent are supposed to show the way for the dead returning to their families during the two day celebration. I don't know how big the marigold industry's business is around this time of year but I have to believe both the supply and demand for these flowers is significant. They were everywhere.
One of the other ancient Day of the Dead traditions you will see all over town is bakeries and restaurants selling pan de muerte, a simple mounded bread typically flavored with orange (although there are plenty of other options) and decorated with abstract bone shapes. These treats originated in Europe before the Spaniards landed in the new world. They were traditionally prepared for All Saints' and All Souls' Day and left on the graves of deceased loved ones.
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| The world's largest (105 feet high) Catrina in the Zocolo, Mexico City. |
Let's get back to skulls, shall we? You might, in fact, see many, many entire skeletons during the Day of the Dead festivities but for sure you are going to see one or two (or many more) whole skeletons outfitted in long, flowing dresses and maybe with long hair or a hat. These are the Catrinas, a creation born of political satire cartoons in the early 20th century which were then popularized and transformed into something different in part by famous Mexican muralist Diego Rivera.
Along with Catrina statues all over Mexico City (and elsewhere in the country, I'm sure), you might also find papier mache sculptures of fantastic imaginary beasts. These sculptures are called alibrijes and are sometimes (including in the movie Coco) misrepresented as spirit guides helping the deceased navigate the afterlife. While there are spirit guides in Día de los Muertos mythology, these guides are typically dogs or monarch butterflies. Alibrijes? Folk art creations from the early 20th century popularized in part by Diego Rivera (again) and his (sometimes) wife, the famous Frida Kahlo.
Finally before we get closer to what this post is really about, you might see brightly-colored paper cutouts depicting pictures or words hanging overhead in various places during the Day of the Dead week. These creations are called papel picardo and have origins in pre-Columbian times when Nahua shamans used to carve symbols and deities into paper made from the bark of trees or the fibers of plants. When the Spanish arrived in what is now Mexico, they brought paper from China with them which proved to be a whole lot easier to carve and cut than tree bark and plant fibers.
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| Papel picado hanging in the church in Mixquic. |
So...papel picado, pan de muerte and marigolds are more legit than Catrinas, alibrijes and (maybe) sugar skulls. Got all that? It's a lot, I know.
And then there's the Day of the Dead Parade, which is probably the biggest single public event of the holiday. This ancient tradition dates all the way back to 2016. Surprised at that? Me too. This seems like a decades old event a la the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade (since 1924 in case you wondered). The origin is even weirder: it was invented in the James Bond Spectre movie.
Seriously. There is a Día de los Muertos parade in a scene in the movie and Mexico City just copied it. The movie was released in 2015. The next year, a parade was added to the official celebration in Mexico City.
The parade was the single largest Día de los Muertos event in downtown Mexico City that we planned our time around. We placed a huge priority on this event, devoting pretty much an entire day to getting to the parade route early; getting our faces painted in event-appropriate fashion; checking out the floats and participants in their respective staging areas; and then staking out a spot a couple of hours early and refusing to eat or drink so we wouldn't need a bathroom break and be forced to abandon our spot. The stools we bought for a whole $8 USD each helped a lot with the two hour wait.
I'm not a huge parades guy but admittedly, over the past few years, I've spent a good amount time being on the side of the route at three of the most famous parades in North America. But this parade was probably the best. It was mostly absent of civic and public organizations like the Shriners and endless fire department and police union groups (I'm looking at you, New York and Calgary) and more populated with groups representing Mexico's past and present through everything from indigenous peoples groups to taco stands.
It was also way more colorful and focused than the other two parades I've attended recently. The color comes from the Mexican culture I think and the focus was on the event at hand. While not everything was Day of the Dead focused, if a group had a theme other than themselves, it was Día de los Muertos-based. I'm going to close this section of this post (because I really need to get to the point of the post) with a few parade pics and just a note that the woman who painted our faces did (in our opinion) the best job of any of the face painters we saw. We were shocked that it cost us the insanely low price of about $15 US for both faces and she was about equally shocked that we opted to tip beyond that amount.
So now let's get to the point. Of this post and of Día de los Muertos.
The point of this whole thing is for families to remember their dead and honor their ancestors. Some people do this by setting up temporary altars in their homes with images of their loved ones and objects dear to their relatives who have passed on and maybe some of their favorite foods. These altars, called ofrendas, are set up and torn down much like folks in the United States put up and remove their Christmas trees. And the way the timing was explained to us sounds EXACTLY like Christmas tree traditions here at home. Some put them up way early and leave them up for some time after the holiday and some just do it last minute and make it gone right after the holiday is over.
But some people in Mexico don't do this at home. They do this at the very place where their ancestors' Earthly remains are now, meaning at the cemetery. So to make our Día de los Muertos pilgrimage as authentic and comprehensive as possible, we went to a cemetery. I mean it's not like we can knock on someone's door and enter their home right? What other option did we have?
I'm totally serious here. On the night of November 1, we boarded a bus at about 7 p.m. in downtown Mexico City and after what seemed like an interminable wait (but which was really probably about 45 minutes), we set off on a bus ride to the Panteón Xilotepec cemetery, which is apparently the second largest cemetery in Mexico City. Our agenda for the night? Spend a bit more than an hour wandering around the cemetery seeing how families had decorated the graves of their loved ones and if they were actually at the cemetery, open a little window into how people celebrate the Day of the Dead.
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| Remembrance of mom and dad. Panteón Xilotepec cemetery. |
This seems voyeuristic, right? Intrusive? Believe me, we had those thoughts. Should we really be doing this? Should we be effectively trespassing on a emotional and intimate and above all private event in a family's (or many, many families') life? Whether it was mourning or celebrating or both or something entirely different, what right did a bunch of tourists from whatever spot of the globe they happened to have traveled from have to stand around and gawk at a private moment in the lives of complete strangers? It's a good question and the answers might not be the same for all of us.
We had guidelines. Stay together. No splitting up or wandering off alone. Follow the guide and we are going to stay on the main path of the cemetery. Be respectful at all times. And despite the fact that it was November 1 which is the date when the souls of children return to their families, we would not be entering the children's section of the cemetery.
That whole stick to the main path rule was important. The Panteón Xilotepec cemetery has a wide main path fronted by many, many gravesites and crypts. But there are far more which do not border the main path, which require stepping between the maze of resting places to get to. Sticking to the path would prevent our group of gawking tourists to some extent from intruding on the privacy of most of the people who had chosen to spend time with their ancestors that night. Would we be able to see candles or lights taken to the cemetery and hear music and maybe singing and talking? Sure, we would. But we we wouldn't be right there with the families. Just the ones on the main path.
And that rule worked great until it didn't have to.
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| Gravesites at Panteón Xilotepec. Simple and maybe a bit more deluxe decorations. |
Why I am surprised by this fact is a little hard for me to even understand. I mean we visited a country specifically to see how they celebrate their ancestors in one of the biggest holidays of the entire year and I'm surprised that people are prioritizing spending money on the very thing that drives the entire holiday? I should really have thought more about this issue. Nonetheless, whether I expected it or not, the architecture of the cemetery was pretty impressive.
And while this was not true of every grave in the cemetery, some serious effort was expended to make some of the crypts and gravesites as dressed up as possible. Candles. Lights. Music. Skulls (not actually real human skulls). Photographs. Papel picado garlands. Tons and tons and tons of marigolds or marigold petals (the petals were seriously impressive because someone somewhere separated those petals meticulously from the plants). This is completely serious business. If I was impressed with the architecture in the cemetery, I was equally struck by the amount of effort made by those still alive to make the graves of their dead look as dressed for the occasion as possible.
One of the things that struck me while I was walking through the cemetery was the very fact that it would be about impossible for me to do what the folks at various gravesites inside Panteón Xilotepec were doing. Notwithstanding the fact that this celebration is not part of my heritage as a person of English descent who emigrated to the United States as a child, if I wanted to celebrate my ancestors in quite this way (meaning in the spot where they were buried), it would not be easy for me to do this because I don't have any ancestors buried in the country where I currently live.
In a sense, I envied the people in the cemetery. I do value my ancestors and while it may seem strange to some for me to believe in this, I do believe there is an afterlife and that the souls of my past family are somewhere out there. Jealousy isn't the right word but as I walked past others remembering their dead in a way I never have, I definitely feel like I was missing something. Being with the mortal remains of your ancestors one or two days a year for the whole day or night seems like an incredible way to honor their lives and their spirits. It was humbling to be in their presence and despite the already identified potentially voyeuristic nature of our night at Panteón Xilotepec, I'm glad I did this. There is real meaning in this ritual for me.
To be clear, not all Mexicans celebrate in the way we saw people doing in the cemetery. As I've already stated, some celebrate in the privacy of their own homes. But some don't do this on Día de los Muertos at all. I asked one of the employees at our hotel if he would mind telling me if he celebrated the Day of the Dead and he said his family didn't. They had a different way of honoring their ancestors at a different time of year. Día de los Muertos is a national holiday in Mexico but not everyone participates, which is cool too.
Then we did something we didn't expect to do. We strayed off the main path.
So before you get sinister ideas about a busload of tourists of various nationalities running riot through a Mexico City cemetery on one of the most sacred nights of the year, it wasn't anything like that.
About 40 minutes into our walk around Panteón Xilotepec, a woman approached our guide and asked if she could escort our group to a grave where a local family was remembering what amounted to the patriarch of the family still on this Earth. She thought it would help our understanding of the night to hear from a family celebrating on that very day.
Do we want to do that? You bet we do.
She took us off the main path, showed us the crypt where her own parents were buried (she was there alone that night and her parents' grave is the first photograph from the cemetery above) and went two plots or so further into the cemetery and introduced us to a whole family of maybe 10 or so celebrating the life of their father, grandfather or great-grandfather.
One of the grandchildren of Evelio Espinosa Vidal (survived by eight children, 23 grandchildren and 10 great-grandchildren and counting, I suppose maybe) talked to us about how important it was for the family to be there to honor their ancestor on that night who had been gone these past three years. They had been there since the early morning and (along with maybe a bottle of tequila or two) planned to be there late that night just talking about their grandfather and remembering him. They planned to do the exact same thing the very next day.
It is easy to use the word intimate to describe an experience walking through a Mexican cemetery at night during this celebration and be spot on to a certain extent without ever engaging anyone there to remember their dead. But to actually meet and talk with and spend a few minutes with a family fully invested and engaged in this night was just incredible and over the top on the intimacy scale. The connection we felt by one stranger's act just made this night for us.
We've had special interactions with random people not connected with the tourism industry all over this planet of ours. November 1, 2026 ranks up there with the best of those encounters. What a gesture by this family to invite us into their personal celebration for just five minutes. So special and incredibly generous. This was a stunning development in our night in absolutely the best way.
Our Día de los Muertos experience didn't stop that night of November 1. We'd have one more night to go. But this post stops here because it never got better on this trip. This act and those five minutes with the family of Evelio Espinosa Vidal are the point of the Day of the Dead. There is no way this experience could have been better. Muchos gracias to the Vidal family for letting us in. We'll never forget.
That story is the point of this post.
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| The grave of Evelio Espinosa Vidal. |












































